Dec 15

You Didn’t Even Know I was Gone

I’m back! Not that I announced I was leaving, but it all happened so quickly that I neglected to leave little updates on the interwebs.

I very suddenly disappeared to go do some work in Northern California, some of which was outside of internet AND phone reception. Even though I’ve been to Burning Man 9 times with no phone or internet (ok, technically the last few there was unreliable internet at scant times, but I think Andy sent 1 email 1 time from the desert, ever.)…it was wierd to be so unplugged. Especially from Andy. I missed him and the kitties a lot. The end of my trip I spent doing a little more work and hanging out with friends in Bay area, who I don’t get to see that much. Work trip with a touch of a vacation mixed in.

I’ve had a lot of catching up and dealing with things piling up during my absence so I’m pretty busy right now, but soon soon I have more good things to share here.

Teasers:

  • an expanded series focusing on my goal to learn to love cooking, including drooling over the amazing deal I scored on a 5 quart crockpot!! Yay, now I can cook full chickens (small ones) and bigger hunks of pork shoulder with little to no effort!
  • a new learn to love goal I’m going to start to work towards!
  • sharing where and what else the heck I do, especially out here in the wild wild interwebs.

Later gators,
-QK

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Nov 14

Ugh

Sundial

Sundial by Greg Hewgill on flickr

When you’re 25, people start suddenly getting married. Noticeably.

At 30, people starting having babies. Popping them out, everywhere.

Round abouts 35, people start dying. Way too young, and way too early, but dying nonetheless.

I wonder what 40 is. Divorcing? Mid-life crises?

And 40 is movin’ in close.

Ugh.

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Nov 12

The Pasta Paradox

Why is it every time I make pasta, I go through the same thought process:

Oh I put too much in the water.

No, wait. Too little.

No, too much.
Wait. Too little.

Usually it ends up
too much.

But sometimes
just right.

And sometimes
when you leave the kitchen
to jot down brilliant blog posts
you burn the garlic bread.

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Nov 10

Smoothies!

I love smoothies! It’s one of the easiest things to make for breakfast or lunch or snack or anytime really. I especially love them it’s hot, but today I made them just because. Well, technically because I have some frozen fruit that I need to use up before the freezer burn monster eats it.

Yes, there is a monster in my freezer. He’s pretty small, no worries.

Yea, so….smoothies! Smoothies are a great way to eat fruit and a smoothie tends to fill me up, which doesn’t happen when just eating a piece of fruit.

The beauty of this recipe is that it’s easy to adjust and swap out what you already have on hand. If there’s any trick to this, it’s knowing how much liquid to add to make it the right consistency. But even that’s easy, really.

General Smoothie Guidelines

  • fruit, frozen or fresh
  • ice, if using fresh fruit
  • banana, optional
  • juice(s); I’ve definitely combined different juices before, as long as the flavors work together
  • milk, cream, or yogurt
  • protein powder, optional

I listed banana separately because I think no matter the fruit, adding banana gives it a nice creamy texture and is a good balance to the tart fruit. If we have banana, I use it, but it works sans banana just fine.

In Today’s Smoothie I Used

  • frozen strawberries (2/3 ratio)
  • frozen mango (1/3 ratio)
  • 2/3 of a banana
  • vanilla yogurt – somewhere between 1/2 and 1 cup (two giant dollops)
  • orange juice

I always use frozen fruit in smoothies (except the banana) which is easier and requires no ice. Here’s how I do it:

Fill blender with frozen fruit, banana if adding, any protein powders or other additions. Add your yogurt or milk/cream (when using milk I only add a few splashes)

Add your juice. How much? A general rule of thumb when making frozen drinks in the blender is you fill the liquid to an inch or so below the height of the stuff you want to liquify. Sometimes you want to use less. It’s key not to add too much liquid or it’s not really a smoothie, more like a sauce I guess.  If that does happen, just add some ice or more frozen fruit. I usually start with less liquid than I need and just add some more in slowly to get the right consistency.

One side effect of not adding enough liquid is that it might be harder for the blender to really blend up the frozen fruit or ice, so you may need to stop the blender and stir it around, add a bit more juice, then blend some more. Blend well and pour into glasses, serve with bendy straw! Yes, I love bendy straws :)

Verdict: YUM! This smoothie was great. The mango added a nice tang and the flavors were well balanced. One thing I love about smoothies is that no matter what you put in, it usually turns out pretty good. Also today I used yogurt and I usually use milk so I think that added to the flavor. Note to self to use yogurt from now on…

Today I had leftovers and usually I just pour them out but there was a good half smoothie worth and I really hate waste so I had an idea, we’ll see how it works. I poured it into a zip-lock and put it in the freezer. In the next few days I’ll take it out, throw in a few more pieces of frozen fruit, a splash of juice into the blender, and see if I can make smoothie leftovers! I’ll let you know how it turns out.

Also, next time I promise pictures!

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Nov 08

Picture Share: Krusty’s Rose

rosefromkrusty

Rose from Krusty

Sunday morning I woke and there were 2 perfect new buds that had bloomed on the rose bush that Krusty is buried under. I grabbed the camera and went out and shot pictures.

I need to that more, shoot pictures. Think I’m gonna.

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Nov 07

Five Favorite Things: Episode 1

Birthday Cake - Candles

Birthday Cake - Candles by jessica.diamond, on Flickr

Oops meant to post this on Friday and forgot.

1. Reading Dear Sugar (in general) I only just happened on this in the last month-ish, so I’ve got loads of archives yet to devour. But when I see a new one in my RSS reader, it’s absolutely the first thing I pounce on.

2. Birthday cake!

3. I got a new pan from Albertson’s for my birthday! Well, only coincidentally on my birthday, but I’m way too excited about the sticker collecting to win fabulous kitchen goodies thing. (BTW: I went for the 9″ saute pan with lid)

4. Birthday gift from the Universe…definitely the hottest birthday on record: our house was at least 96. Maybe up to 100! Yea, sweating is not so fun but it was certainly memorable.

5. New exciting doable inspiring potentially (no, definitely!) awesome ideas :)

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Nov 04

Queeniversary

The Queen and Miss M chat with a guest

The Queen and Miss M chat with a guest

It seems like it was yesterday, but then it also seems like a million years ago now.

I struggle, being concise here. There’s much context to this story, and it’s something I will get into at some point, lest the point of this entry gets lost in crazy back story.

And the point of this entry is the Queeniversary.

It has been 10 years since I was gifted the title of Queen.

It was a whirlwind time in my life. Less than a year since I’d moved to San Diego. Just a scant few months after my first Burning Man. And it was the beginning of a radical living experiment. Everything was new, everything was exciting, anything was possible.

Just after Burning Man, I became very close with a lovely lady called Miss M. Basically I went over one Friday night to watch movies at her house and didn’t leave all weekend long. Insta-friends, pretty inseparable.

Miss M convinced me to join forces with another friend John and the 3 of us had recently moved into this….house, more like…living art experiment. But there were people already living there that were strangers, and we were coming in and bringing some changes. It was all a bit new and crazy and scary. Mostly scary good.

This was just a few weeks before my birthday. There was so much YAY going on in my life at that time, that I decided I wanted to celebrate my birthday with a great party, something I had not done in many years.

But come to find out, our roommates had already planned a party for the night of my birthday, which happened to land on a Saturday. At first we thought, hey, let’s join forces! But a few short conversations and a few too many condescending remarks later, we realized we were not on the same page, and the combined party wasn’t going to work out.

But I still wanted a party! But I was also still fighting my Midwestern upbringing of apologizing for things and acting way too humble. As in, maybe I didn’t deserve a birthday party. As in, don’t make such a big deal out of yourself. As in, don’t be so forward about your wants and desires.

I don’t remember why, but The Conversation didn’t happen face to face, but rather on the phone. I was talking to Miss M. We were discussing the busted idea of the joint party. I still remember what I said: “Is it so wrong to want to have a party for my birthday?” And she said, “That’s it — we’re having a Kelly is Queen party.”

If you know Miss M, or anyone like her, you know that once she has an idea in her head, there is little to stop her from doing it. And so it was. We’d be having a birthday party for sure, only on Friday night instead of Saturday. And it would be themed Kelly is Queen. Because she believed I deserved a kick ass party, and she believed I should be treated as a Queen, even when I would think that maybe I didn’t deserve such a title, didn’t deserve to elevated in such a way. She believed in me, and it showed me a way to start truly believing in myself.

So I set about transforming an old bridesmaid outfit into a Queen’s dress by hot gluing about 3943291 fake jewels onto it. I created a crown with more jewels and froof, drug out some regal fabrics I had and decorated the living room.

Friends responded in kind. I had so many people doing such nice things for me at the party. Waiting on me hand and foot. One friend came over early to do my makeup. Another had her husband dress as a beefcake with tuxedo pants and bow tie, but sans shirt, and commanded him to wait on me. Another friend brought dignitaries, real and imagined. The imagined was bringing me a “king” — one of her friends she convinced to come dressed as my king. She also brought a world-famous artist she’d met earlier in the day at a show, and he proceded to use sharpie to draw sketches on many of the guests, myself included. Many, many friends came and offered gifts of primping and pampering, and many just honored me with their presence. There was midnight spankings, and massages, and so much love and friendship. It was magical.

I liked being Queen. And as much as the doting was awesome, it started me thinking about the concept of Queen, and how much I related to the idea. To clarify: not the princess. The Queen. The ultimate Mother figure, responsible for all, but cares for every last one, even the smallest and weakest. Who rules with great compassion, but is firm and sure. Caring, but strong. Creative, and powerful.

Miss M also came up with what I still think of to this day as the summary of what being the Queen means: Speak to the Queen and the Queen will answer. Be your highest self, and ask others to respect and speak to you as such, and you elevate your every day into a place of importance, care, and purpose.

Happy Queeniversary.

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Oct 30

The Simplest Meditation

Where Time Stands Still (Morning Glory) By Joel Bedford on Flickr

Where Time Stands Still (Morning Glory) By Joel Bedford on Flickr

I don’t claim to be any kind of expert on meditation. In fact, I wish I could remember to meditate more often in those times when I really really need it.

So I’m writing this here for both of us: you who came looking for information on a simple basic meditation, and me to remind myself to use it. It’s a really simple  technique that works.

In no way do I claim ownership or authorship or any-ship to this technique. I read it in a book. That I gave to a friend and can no longer remember the title. No matter. The book was for an everyday person trying to learn some basic meditation techniques. It stuck with me over the years because it’s just so simple and basic. And it works. When I remember to use it!

It’s the counting meditation. It involves breathing and counting. And optional walking. Very very simple. You breathe. Nice deep inhale, and on the exhale, you count. You count to 4, then do it again. 1….2….3….4….1….2….3…..4…..1…. Over and over. Breathing and counting. If you find your mind wandering, you simply go back to 1. No beating yourself up, no inner critic nagging you for failing. Just… back to 1. It’s important not to think of meditation as something to be won, or that you are good or bad at it. Any meditation is good, even if you are constantly having to go back to 1 because your thoughts invade. No biggie! Just like anything that takes a bit of practice, beating ourselves up in the learning phase is pointless and will stop progress.

I’m a visual person, so sometimes I have a hard time not thinking of anything because my mind wants to make pictures. Damn it, mind! So if you have a hard time with letting go of visual thoughts, picture a blank piece of paper. Again, if other pictures start showing up, back to the blank sheet.

Some people are jumpy, can’t sit still. They can do the counting meditation for about 30 seconds and then they go crazy. So to make it even easier, a good way to do it is to take a walk. A count for every step. This, to me, is the drop-dead easiest, and the physical act gives your body something to do in a way that seems to help even the most freaking out mind. I highly suggest this technique for those that think they could never ever ever do meditation. It’s a great first step. *groan* I’m so punny…

Sometimes you can’t take a walk. So I improvised the “tiny walk” where, instead of walking and counting with my steps, I simply tap my foot or just even my big toe, and do the four count to that. Similar to how a musician might keep time.

I really do have to recommend the walking technique, though. When I’m super stressed out, I’m amazed at how much better I feel after taking a walk. So try it next time you feel like your brain is spinning and feels out of control.

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Oct 28

A Sad Day

Krusty and his tongue

Krusty Mermuls Muffin

There’s a giant hole in my heart today. This whole week, really.

Sunday morning a member of our furry family passed. The dear, sweet, sometimes-cranky, always chatty, constantly licking Krusty Mermuls Muffins.

I want to remember the memories, not be haunted by the image of his lifeless body that I found outside Sunday morning. An image that I constantly feared, wanted to deny would ever happen. But it did.

I paused when I got up, still blissfully ignorant. It was later than normal. He hadn’t spent the early morning meowing for his breakfast. Getting up I didn’t see him inside, but it was a sunny and warm morning, he was probably outside basking in the sun.

He wasn’t on the back porch. I opened the gate to the side yard and saw his form laying at the back of the garden. “Oh there you are…” I started to say, but before I even finished the sentence I knew immediately. Something was wrong. Knew before I saw the injuries to his head. Knew from the stillness, the lack of reaction to my voice. I stepped up and saw what I never wanted to see. I stood over him and tried to deny it. NO!! Oh no, Muffins, NO. And I began to cry.

I ran inside, hysterical, and managed to tell Andy. I took him to his body. And we cried. Spent too much time trying to figure out what happened. It doesn’t really matter; the end result is the same. Muffins is gone. We buried him under the rose bush; Andy dug the hole, I fashioned a cross and found a rock to mark the spot.

Krusty sitting in the drawer

Krusty hanging out in my drawer

Our dear, sweet Krusty. Who first came to us not too long after we moved into this house. He acted like he belonged here, but from all accounts looked pretty stray. He wanted love, but was afraid of it. Andy started feeding him. I thought it not such a good idea, that Kitty would hate this interloper. But of course I have a soft heart, and didn’t really mean it. Logic and emotion aren’t always on the same page. We fed him, petted him, played with him in the yard. Eventually we let him inside.

Andy started calling him Other Kitty. Which, since we already have a cat named Kitty, I was not going to allow. This one had some mangled fur, he looked kind of wild. Krusty Kitty, I suggested. It stuck.

Of course, he had many knicknames. Our cats all do. He was vocal and had a distinct meow. Liked to talk and announce his arrival, or let me know that he was ready for breakfast. He mur-mur-meowed. He sometimes said hallllow.

His second name became Mermuls. Or, anything that started with M. Andy liked Mustang kitty for awhile, which fit his wild nature.

Early on he just hung out outside in the yard. Kitty hissed at first, then tolerated. He hunted not for sport, but for dinner. He killed and ate quite a few bunnies. He brought countless lizards into the house, more than a few mice. Being on a canyon had afforded him some good hunting ground.

Krusty laying on the couch

Lazy lovable Muffins

We found out later from our neighbor that he had originally been our landlord’s cat. The landlord had a few dogs and a few cats, and this one just didn’t really like them. He’d come and go. And when he moved out and rented the house, Krusty was nowhere to be found and didn’t go with. So he became ours.

We almost lost him 2 1/2 years ago, so losing him was always a fear. He’d had a urethral blockage, far too common in male cats, and he came very close to death from his whole system backing up and poisoning him. So close that the emergency vet told us he’d never seen a cat that sick recover. But he did. He was strong.

The night that he came home from his ordeal, I slept next to him in his makeshift bed of towels on the living room floor to make sure he would be okay. I skipped a good friend’s wedding to watch over him and administer his meds. I doted over him. We both did. Our bond with him changed after that. He knew we had saved his life, I think. Even if he didn’t want to take his medicines. He became less wild. He spent far more time inside. But he still went out side to go to the bathroom; he didn’t like his litter box.

Krusty with his tongue hanging out again

Krusty's tongue hangs out for the 8763634 time

His most recent nickname was Muffins. Another derivative of the M names that Andy regularly came up with. He was getting a bit fat lately, a lot more lazy. He was definitely starting to show the signs of being older. Of course we don’t really know how old he was.

We taught him to play without scratching us (too much). We gave him the love and attention I think he lacked or pushed away as a youngster. He loved us, and boy did we love him. Even when we called him a cranky old man for hissing at the newest members of our cat family.

Ironically, the Krusty that came to us with mangled fur became a kitty who was borderline obsessed with cleaning himself. Probably a habit from living the hard outside life. But the cushy inside life offered much cleaner hanging out, and less animal carcasses, but he still licked himself silly. And he had this thing, if you’d interrupt him while he was grooming, many times he’d sit there with his tongue hanging out, sometimes for a good 10 minutes. Oh the laughs, the belly-busting laughs we’d have. We’d call to the other to quickly grab the camera to document Krusty and his ever-loving tongue. With the amount of pictures we have of his tongue out, you’d think he was like that all the time.

He was dearly loved and will be dearly missed. RIP Krusty.

Kitties on the porch

Kitty and Krusty hanging on the front porch

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Oct 20

Crockpot Cooking Secrets

Proctor Silex Slow Cooker

My slow cooker might be small, but it gets the job done

A long, long time ago…in a place and time when I really didn’t do any cooking, I had crockpot. I think I used it 2 or 3 times, max, in the years I had it. Somewhere in the bevy of moves and roomates I lost track of it, but since I hated cooking in general, I didn’t notice it’s absence until it was long gone. Hopefully someone put it to some use.

But in my cooking rebirth, I decided I really wanted a crockpot again. Or I should say slow cooker, as the cool kids call them these days. Alas, money has been tight and I resist nearly every urge to buy kitchen gadgets… but when I noticed some small ones on post-Christmas markdown at the grocery store, I could not deny the deal: $10! Hello!

I go in fits and starts with using it, but it gets a lot more use than my old one ever did. Easily the thing I make the most often is shreaded/pulled meats, mostly chicken and pork. Great for BBQ pulled sammiches, or shredded in tacos and burritos. In fact, as I write this I can smell a glorious rubbed pork shoulder cooking away. No, not in my mind. In my kitchen!

When I started using it, I thought that you had to fill the thing with all kinds of liquid and then add your meat. Encountering recipes online, I found some that said NO! Don’t do that! I didn’t listen at first, but then decided to give it a try, and yup it’s true.

The #1 myth of slow cooking is that you have to fill the thing with liquid.

Can you still add some liquid? Will it turn out bad if you still add liquid? Clearly that depends on the recipe, and the meat you are cooking. Adding liquid won’t ruin your dish. Some people insist on it. But I have moved away from doing so.

I find the chicken and pork tends to create it’s own liquid as it cooks. Which is the best liquid to cook in, clearly! Now, if you are making a soup you may want to add some stock and that obviously would be important. Also, it’s a matter of size: my crockpot is quite small. Using a bigger crockpot gives a lot more room to add more liquid. Usually I’m worried everything is going to fit!

So, I advise you to hold back adding liquid, but DO make sure to season well. How you season is super important, and depending on what flavors you want, and makes the world of difference between a bland “boiled meat” taste and a super yummy flavor-filled one.

Here’s my secrets to slow cooking meats for BBQ pulled chicken or pork sandwiches – this is less a recipe than a general set of guidelines.

1. Don’t add extra liquid!
2. Some onion at the bottom and top makes a nice flavor, but it’s optional. Or try garlic, or other aromatics.
3. SEASON! Don’t hold back. If you’re doing a bbq pulled meat and you want a smoky flavor, a bit of liquid smoke is a nice touch.
4. When meat is done (it’s fork tender, falls apart easily), pull the meat out of slow cooker and shred with 2 forks. Pour all the liquid into a separate bowl. Put the meat back in the slow cooker. Add your BBQ sauce (homeade or bottled), and add some (but not all!) of the liquid back in. Basically make the mixture a happy consistancy. I find just using all the liquid plus BBQ sauce makes it too runny. Slow cook it on low until it’s all warm, a half hour or hour more.

How long to cook?
It depends. Chicken breasts take less time than a whole big pork shoulder. I try to use low but too many times I start the thing too late in the day, so I use high (or a mixture of low and high…getting it going on high for a bit then switch to low). A rule of thumb I use is 4-6 on high or 8-10 on low but 6 on low can sometimes be enough, or 3 on high can also work.  I find that cook times can vary greatly depending on what slow cooker you use, too (compared to my own findings vs recipes I find online). So be prepared with a bit of leeway. If in doubt, get it in early as possible and use low, there’s less chance of overcooking. If it’s done too early just flip it to warm.

When slow cooking, it may be tempting to check on it all the time, but opening the crockpot a lot works against you. That’s not to say completely hands off, but…yea. Try to resist the urge to futz too much.

If you want some slow cooker inspiration, a great website I love is Crockpot 365. Stephanie is the Queen of Slow Cooking! She used her crockpot everyday for a year and shares the recipes on her site. Even though the year of slow cooking is over, she still shares recipes regularly. It’s a great resource.

Now get out there and get slow cooking!

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